Is there a correct way to address someone who look very androgynous?

Short Answer: Yes, carefully.

Long Answer: Androgynous individuals have existed since the dawn of human history, and the way in which individuals address this phenomenon depends on the culture, as well as the knowledge-base of the individual doing the addressing.

Most often, you can get away with the third person "they." In some situations, though, such as in the aforementioned case in the crowded restaurant, that probably wouldn't have worked too well. In such an instance, the best one can do is to use your best judgment (after all you have a roughly 50/50 shot) and apologize if you are incorrect.

However, the reaction of the person is going to depend on a number of factors. Most androgynous individuals fall into two groups (intentional and unintentional).

Intentional androgyny (as seen in Japan and other parts of the world) is a lifestyle choice that denounces the notions of male or female, or celebrates the beauty of an androgynous individual. Some individuals may even enjoy the confusion they cause others, while others truly see themselves as androgynous or asexual individuals (identifying as neither male nor female).

Unintentional androgyny is the most difficult to address. Often times, the individual is either unaware of their androgyny or hyper-aware of it. An unaware individual, such as an older woman with short hair who appears to have some masculine features will probably take a hostile offensive position if called "sir." A quick apology and moving on is about all you can do; do not over compensate for the mistake as it will only draw more unwanted attention to the error in your judgment. The best you can do is get through the awkwardness of the remaining time you spend with them and leave the situation alone.

Alternatively, someone going through the hormonal stages of gender reassignment surgery (those just beginning to show signs of their self-identified gender) will probably take a timid defensive position. Such individuals can be very emotional during this transition time, and may be timid or reserved to begin with. This lot is a double edged sword. If you guess their self-identified gender, it can be a tremendous boost of confidence for them, especially during such a sensitive transition period. If you guess wrong, they may feel a sense of failure at being unable to overcome the physical abnormality they feel is their own body. The best way to correct this is to empathetically apologize, and to address them as their self-identified gender for the rest of your time together.

If you know someone is transgendered and you are not sure if they are MTF (male to female) or FTM (female to male), if should be alright to ask them how they would like to be addressed, especially if you are going to be engaging in a prolonged activity with them. However, unlike androgynous looking individuals, transgendered individuals typically cling to the "iconic" dress of male or female roles, so you should be able to identify their perceived gender based on what they are wearing.

In the end, however, there is not hard and fast rule for addressing an androgynous individual. Your best bet is to use generic terms, but if you are pushed, just go with your gut and roll with the punches. Most people understand.

Androgynous Individual

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Pardon me, Sir Ma'am. Use both, the person will correct you. Then you say, than you. That was an awkward moment!

You could say

Pardon me friend

Excuse me, you there

"Please don't expect to be a representative of any sorts because it would be an embarassment to us and our personal image. PLease. For the sake of your motherland and God and aliens and flying animals. You probably think that you can do many things... but hahahahaha despite all your efforts, you can't change THAT one aspect of yourself, b*tch... Why can't you just find any man with a dick between his legs so that you can prove to everyone that you're... er.... a WOMAN?!".